++ with work. it took me a long time to learn that work - while important - is just work. i spent my 20s and early 30s building my career, pouring every single available hour i had at the office to climb up that corporate ladder. i lived and breathed work. took it home with me. i was the first one in and the last one out of the office and most of the time, i spent my nights thinking about work and worrying about it. then my dad passed away which was a major wake-up call. then i had kayla. then i went through a serious depression that nearly took everything from me.
after all that, i realized that work will always be there. when i die, i can't take work with me. it won't mourn my loss. i can't take the money i make when i'm dead. my company will still go on whether i'm there or not. and for serious, if i don't send out that email or edit that deck or finish my document rightfuckingnow! will anyone die? will the company burn to the ground? will anyone lose a limb? the answer to these questions is always no.
so my perspective changed. i dedicate my brain 100% to work during office hours. every day until 3pm, i am my work's bitch; i will do what needs to be done, above and beyond my job description to make every project successful but come 3pm, i check the fuck out. work mode changes to home mode and everyone can fuck off. as i leave the office, coworkers do not exist. work emails do not exist. projects do not exist. and i won't respond to work emails after office hours unless the servers/systems explode and are melting in a fire. other than that, everything can wait until office hours begin the next day.
++ with life. family and friends are my main priority and i'm ashamed to admit that during my younger years when i was occupied with buliding my career, these weren't at the top of my list. however, things are different now; when i'm away from the office, i'm here and present with my life. i don't even think about work. or anything else for that matter. i see my friends. i spend time wth my family. i do things for myself. although i have to plan these things out, i make the effort to do them. i put in the effort to schedule time with everyone, including me time, on a regular basis. planning and scheduling are a must in order for me to maintain this balance. i've been staying off social media during my time with friends. although i want to instagram all kinds of shit, i tend to put my phone down and be present; to enjoy the moment.
++ with blogging. i won't lie: blogging takes up a LOT of my time. between the blogs i read/comment on, responding to my own blog comments in addition to churning out the number of posts that i do, the ONLY way for me to do this between all the other shit i have to do is schedule and plan.
it's rare that i don't read a bunch of blogs every day. i get into the office at 7am which is about 2hrs before everyone else does so i've set my morning routine to be this: eat breakfast/drink tea while i read and comment on every blog in my Feedly. and my Feedly is pretty fucking big so i need those 2 hours. anyone who tries to step to me with work will straight up be told to fuck off and come back at 9am when i actually start my day. ain't nobody got time fo' dat.
i also plan and schedule my posts. this is so important for me in order to publish anything - my little planner is filled with ideas and any topic that pops into my head gets jotted down so i have a list to choose from when it's time to write. how many times have you sat in front of your computer thinking about what to write and come up blank? i just review my list of ideas and pick one...so much easier.
all of my posts are written and scheduled to go up a week or two in advance and although i'm proud of this, it's nowhere near steph's blogging wizardry who legit has 199 already scheduled posts to go live for the remainder of the year (not kidding about that number either; girlfriend is from the future). preparing all of my posts a week ahead not only prevents me from having to scramble to come up with topics - something that has never worked for me - but i can take the week to perfect my (scheduled) posts. i often go back and edit them if something funnier pops into my head or if i find a better gif or if i just decide that what i've written licks bag and ditch the whole thing. it also gives me the time i need to respond to comments at my own pace instead of replying to comments and worrying about posts or what to write and scrambling to come up with topics or joining linkups...arrrgghh! too much pressure!!!
but sometimes, even the best laid plans can go to shit because life can be a bitch like that and when that happens, there's always this:
how do you maintain balance in your life?
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