i have been with this wonderful man for 15 years, married for 10. when i look back, i can't believe how fast time has passed.
we met in 1999 when i was a tiny baby of 23 and he was a 27yr old stud. at the time, he was with some other slut whore skank woman until he met me and realized i was the real deal haha kidding! (kindasortanotreally).
fast forward through amazing trips, buying and living in a house in sin and a couple of bumps along the way but our passionate love for one another never faultered and and we got hitched on this day back in 2004. we galavanted for another 4 years as a married couple before i shot kayla out of my vagina and settled down (read: turned into an old lady).
through it all, we survived:
:: the raving days. those who rave together, stay together.
:: the horrible, debilitating post partum depression that nearly took everything and nearly destroyed our marriage. he was the most supportive, loving person during this really hard time in my life; always there for me in every way possible even though i was a completely different person immersed in the blackness that i just couldn't escape. how he did this while working and taking on the majority of the child-rearing responsiblities is beyond me.
:: 2 big moves (you know how huge purchases/moving can cause couples to fight).
:: the fact that i get hangry and say mean things during said hanger. also during stupid monthly bleeding uterus.
:: working together which means being in each other's faces 24/7.
:: parenthood, because holy fuck, it can be hard.
these two adore each other! they even have the same smirk.
and learned what makes a happy, healthy marriage:
:: laughter and jokes. pranks are also strongly encouraged. and mocking; don't forget the mocking.
:: alone time. for real - you can't always be up in each other's grill 24/7.
:: date night! no kids! no talking about kids either.
:: clear rules on chores. this is no joke - when you throw a kid into the mix, a full time job etc, one person bearing the brunt of all the house work will only turn them into a person full of rage and resentment.
:: open communication. don't hold back with your feelings or thoughts, especially during an argument - tell your partner exactly how you feel. even if it may turn ugly, get it all out, talk about it and then squash it.
:: that whole don't go to bed angry? bullshit. if it means it'll give you a cool head in the morning and better perspective, sleep in the doghouse basement. we do that sometimes and in the morning he apologizes for doing dumb shit things have pretty much smoothed over.
:: don't sweat the small stuff! and don't take everything so seriously!
happy anniversary to my wonderful husband who, for some reason, still loves me!